THINGS ARE STILL TOUGH FOR ME.

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THINGS ARE STILL TOUGH FOR ME.

Post by mariana44 » Sat Apr 26, 2014 9:15 pm

As though I have not had enough to put up with this year, with building work, leaks, ,fences, builders, friends letting me down, I need to find £4000.00 to have urgent repointing done---doctor says I have severe depression, am now on tablets and awaiting counselling---on top of all that I have had another traumatic 2 days. 2 people that I thought were really close friends have virtually stabbed me in the back. And I just do not know why, which is the worst thing.

One of them is Josh from my Hobbies group, who I became very close to, also his mum who I also thought I was close to.
However on Thursday they both came to Hobbies group and totally ignored me---despite the fact that 2 weeks ago everything was fine between us, and I had not seen or contacted Josh for the 2 weeks, as his phone was out of order. Although I had contacted his mum as usual.

So despite the fact that I have helped Josh a lot on his projects, he has been to my house for the day on several occasions, he texted me several times a day, I was with them Christmas day, and also a surprise visit on his birthday last month, where he was REALLY pleased to see me, and they would come in and see the dogs once a week, so despite all that for what appears to be no reason whatsoever, they both treated me as though I was a stranger .I was so hurt and bewildered, that I could not face asking what was wrong with everyone around.

The same thing at the disco last night, I was hoping to talk to Josh to ask what was wrong, but he just said nothing is wrong-all the time !! Then his mum came to pick him up, walked right past me, talked to someone else for 10 minutes then walked straight out with not even a glance in my direction.

I am beyond being upset, I do not blame Josh, he has various problems I know, but I blame his mum, because she controls him totally.

The last straw was this evening, on Facebook, she has left a really rude and nasty comment for me---for all to see. She does not mention my name, but I know 100% it was meant for me. Why would she do this---for no reason. She knows how unwell I am just now. why would she be so unkind.

I love my Hobbies group, I have been involved 2 and a half years, and I do such a lot to help and teach them various crafts , including Josh,I do not think I deserve to be treated in this way.

Sorry to whinge so, and carry on so, but it just helped to get it off my chest.
Mariana

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Re: THINGS ARE STILL TOUGH FOR ME.

Post by maxine » Sat Apr 26, 2014 9:52 pm

Marian i sent a private message but don't know if you received ! The message thing confuses me ...please let me know if you have received :wink:
Softly, I will leave you softly
For my heart would break if you should wake and see me go.....

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Post by Marian » Sat Apr 26, 2014 9:53 pm

Dear Marian,
I'm so very sorry things are tough for you at the moment. I was wondering why you were feeling so sad on facebook but you seemed as usual as ever on here. Hopefully you will be able to work things out with the people causing you grief, but in the meantime you know you have firm friends on here you can always turn to and will be always be wishing you well. :D

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Post by john » Sat Apr 26, 2014 10:04 pm

I am so sorry to read this Marian. I saw your post on Facebook too and wondered if you were o.k. As Marian has said you have a lot of good friends on here you can always depend on, we all think such a lot of you as you are a lovely lady. I hope things sort themselves out for you. x

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Post by mariana44 » Sat Apr 26, 2014 10:55 pm

Sorry Maxiner, I did not receive a private message from you. It is important to press the submit button at the end, as I know to my cost !!

Marian and John, thank you so much for your words of support, really means a lot to me. I spoke to my friend and neighbour Laurreen, and she has helped me make a little sense of it all.
Mariana

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Post by karl » Sat Apr 26, 2014 11:06 pm

Marian as Ena Sharples said There' Nowt Queerer Than Folk".

Don't get yourself in a state it just makes you feel bad.

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Post by Eman » Sat Apr 26, 2014 11:14 pm

Mariana, I'm so sorry to hear you are feeling really sad and hopefully things work out for you. You seem so up on here but as Marian said pretty sad on FB.. Hope everything will be ok.

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Post by ROBERT M. » Sun Apr 27, 2014 2:15 am

Hope you are feeling better soon Marian ............... :(
"My Tears Will Fall Now That You're Gone,
I Can't Help But Cry, But I Must Go On" :(

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Post by mariana44 » Sun Apr 27, 2014 9:05 am

Thanks Karl, Eman, and Robert. I am still feeling really awful.
Mariana

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Post by Lena & Harry Smith » Sun Apr 27, 2014 10:36 am

So sorry that you are feeling upset and depressed Marian. This is obviously a combination of all that you have been through recently.
It's a shame and unfair that Josh and his Mother are treating you so badly after all the kindly things you have done to help them both and yet won't tell you what their reasons are for acting this way.
Just tell yourself it is their loss. Importantly, take time out for yourself each day with treats, knowing that there are so many other people who care about you.

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Post by Marian » Sun Apr 27, 2014 1:33 pm

As Lena and Harry have said it is a sad time for you anyway and with all the other things going wrong it's no wonder you are feeling so low. Remember too Marian, if you are taking antidepressants they often make you feel worse for a while when you first take them, but then they should start making you feel better. Your little furry friends are there too to cheer you up, they love you no matter what. :)

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Post by maxine » Sun Apr 27, 2014 2:05 pm

I echo what all your dear friends are saying Marian ..... :D ...thinking of you ....
Softly, I will leave you softly
For my heart would break if you should wake and see me go.....

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Post by mariana44 » Sun Apr 27, 2014 2:48 pm

Thanks Lena ,Harry, Marian and Maxine. I do not care too much about June, Joshua's mum, but I was very close to Josh. And I am sure this is all her doing, I do not blame Josh-but I am really going to miss him. He would sing to me, tell jokes, do impressions, make me laugh, always a big hug on hello and goodbye.

And yes, Marian I did know about the tablets, I read the little notes inside, and they said yo
u could feel worse, and it could take up to 4 weeks to notice a difference---but I certainly did not expect to come down with such a bang !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mariana

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Post by mariana44 » Sun Apr 27, 2014 3:03 pm

Just seen another 3 messages on Facebook from June meant for me. Why ????????????????
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Re: THINGS ARE STILL TOUGH FOR ME.

Post by maxine » Sun Apr 27, 2014 3:26 pm

This sounds like harassment and if this keeps on ....a police matter .... Save the messages Marian ...thinking of you
Softly, I will leave you softly
For my heart would break if you should wake and see me go.....

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