MY HOBBIES GROUP

[john]

A bit of good news at last for you Marian, I am so pleased for you.

[karl]

Marian obviously you would not want to upset the children but I meant the plonkers who upset you in the first place.

What has happened to make you stay?

[mariana44]

Karl--there was only one plonker--and if I upset her, I upset Joshua, and I am just not prepared to do that.

Why I changed my mind is that it just felt as though the last month never happened. they all seemed genuinly pleased to see Me and Laurreen, and I just got some of that feeling back, that I loved from the start.

[Marian]

Great news Marian, I'm sure all that all the people who go there appreciate you (apart from one maybe!), as well your other friend. Weather the storm if there is any bad feeling left, and hold your head high when you next go. You've been through the worst.

[maxine]

thats great Marian

[Sandra]

SO pleased for you Marian xx

[Gray]

Really pleased to hear this, Marian.
I am really happy for you.
Here's hoping things have changed for the better.

[mariana44]

Thanks everyone, you have all been so supportive, I really appreciate it.

i am pleased with myself that I never retaliated in any way--even though I wrote emails, letters, texts etc that never got sent. Once a thing is said it cannt be unsaid, so I think I did the right thing, as there may have been no recovery for me. And I know if I said a word against Joshua's mum, be it right or wrong, he would never have forgiven me.

So all in all, everything is fine, i am feeling much better. My once "so called" friend and her family, are all now off Facebook, as far as I can gather. No idea why, but I do not care. Not Joshua, he was never on.

[maxine]

Dignity kept marian ...best way ...not feeding the fire usually makes it peta out ....and you are a lovely person
nobody can take that a way from you and also ...you don't have to answer to anybody in this life my hubby taught me that ...and it is only just sinking in for me ....enjoy your hobbies club dear marian

[karl]

Ah but you can keep your dignity and still give someone a piece of your mind - sometimes they need to know you are not a pushover. You don't need to go in with all guns blazing, sometimes a quiet word or three is all it takes.

[mariana44]

I am sure in most cases you are right Karl, but sadly in this case it would not have worked.

[mariana44]

I have got some serious thinking to do in the next 24 hours, and a difficult decision to make. Keep your fingers crossed for me so that I can stay strong.

[mariana44]

thanks all of you who were thinking of me. I have been very strong, and this morning Laurrren and I went upo to Hobbies, to say goodbye to everyone for the last time. We will not be going back.

I have been hurt and upset for the last time. I cannot change how I am and how I interact with others, nor do I wish to , so there is no way back. But it was soooooooooo hard for me !!

[maxine]

thanks all of you who were thinking of me. I have been very strong, and this morning Laurrren and I went upo to Hobbies, to say goodbye to everyone for the last time. We will not be going back.

I have been hurt and upset for the last time. I cannot change how I am and how I interact with others, nor do I wish to , so there is no way back. But it was soooooooooo hard for me !!

Good luck to you both Marian ....you will be fine ..it will take adjustment but you will be fine I'm sure ...as people have said on here ..you have been through a lot worse ....a cyber hug for you

[maxine]

thanks all of you who were thinking of me. I have been very strong, and this morning Laurrren and I went upo to Hobbies, to say goodbye to everyone for the last time. We will not be going back.

I have been hurt and upset for the last time. I cannot change how I am and how I interact with others, nor do I wish to , so there is no way back. But it was soooooooooo hard for me !!

Good luck to you both Marian ....you will be fine ..it will take adjustment but you will be fine I'm sure ...as people have said on here ..you have been through a lot worse ....a cyber hug for you

And sending a proper hug too