mariana44 wrote:This saga continues.......I made arrangements to meet up with Gemma, to continue helping her, as I had promised her mum a while back, that I would never let gemma down--and I keep my promises.
So we met up in the church foyer, nice and quiet, and I was helping gemma finish her latest project. After an hour , Lynn
[our 3 rd helper ] appeared, she had been working in the church shop--i think we were all a bit surprised, but I just laughed and said how impossible it would be to keep a secret !! We stayed another hour,then left, got on to the main road-and Laurreens car pased us ! Another 30 seconds either way we would have missed each other ! So I just laughed again, and said something else about not being able to keep anything a secret !! Of course i was only joking, as neither of us were doing anything wrong--but when I got home, I had 2 texts from gemma, one was to ask me to ask Lynn not to say anything at thursday hobbies, as she did not want anyone to know that I had met up with her---another one saying that she had decided to give the baby blanket [her finished project] to her niece , instead of taking it to Hobbies, as she did not want anyone to know that I had been seeing and helping her.
I was not happy at that, so I texted back to say that if she was uncomfortable with me helping her, maybe it was best if it did not happen again ! Shortly after, I had a text from gemma's mum, telling me how unkind I had been to gemma--how upset gemma was, Gemma had done nothing wrong -blah, blah, blah---and then she told me I must not see gemma again !!! On top of that , gemma had previously told me, that at our last meeting, when Joshua's mum came to pick him up, he told her that "everything was Ok with Marian today" !! As if i was on probation , or was having a regular report done on me !!!!!!!! I guess it does not sound like much, but I was so close to Joshua and gemma and had helped them such a lot, and it still hurts so much !!
Plus believe it or not, neither Laurreen or i have had one single word from Sue [ the leader of the group]---I feel like we are a pair of worn out shoes, only fit for the bin. And although Sue may have issues with me, she has none with Laurreen, who has worked tirelessly for Hobbies, taking all the boring tedious work home to do-so that they can finish their projects, and yes, I did some too, but not as much. But Laurreen is a more forgiving person than i am, although I am still trying. !
I put a basic message on my Facebook page, just saying that I have left the Hobbies group, and thanking all my Facebook friends for their interest on our projects, and the comments and encouragement--and I have had some lovely messages of support from friends who were following our progress--but only 1 from anyone in Hobbies--that was Amie, who in fact I rarely saw. !
I am just going to cut myself off completely from everyone at Hobbies, it is clear now that Sue has no more interest in us. Lynn is going this Thursday, but whether she will continue going I do not know. I am hoping that she will support me, and let them know that she believes in me.
If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't ..my motto .....I don't ever trust most gaggles of women ....unfortunately bitter experience ....I've had a truly awful time at jobs through the years and the problem people? Women ...So I'm happy not being in big groups of women anymore ....it hurts for now Marian but you will move on.....you wouldn't believe the things that have been said to me over the years ....i.e peter bought me some valentine flowers ..our first ever one ...delivered to the office....and one particular woman (who always gave me grief so much so that when I saw her almost 30 years later I became very anxious) )...anyway said .. Huh what a waste of flowers ......I was gobsmacked ...I was always giving her lifts to and from work when I learned to drive ...just a sipper of the c?!p I've had to endure from other women ....thinking of you Marian ...you don't deserve it ..and my hubby would always help people being bullied at work because of what I went through ....
